The Day Every Girl Dreams of, and How I Got There

As the sun bled through the blinds, this sublime and immeasurable joy entered my heart. In 8 hours, I was going to marry the man of my destiny. I use the word destiny instead of dreams because I believe this was something already written in "Christina's Life" book. The peace that followed the joy was inexplicable. I started replaying my "Journey of Singleness" in my mind, just to continue to give thanks to God. Knowing the life I led to the life I now lead are polar opposites, I can expect more amazing things to come into my path because of the sacrifices I have made. Let me give you a little back story. I've dated in LA, Miami, and New York. The 3 most influential cities in our nation, if not the world, and man have I encountered some fools and follies. I've had my heart broken (more than once) because I wore it on my sleeve like an ornament made of glass. I didn't realize that over time and with every encounter, I would feel less like myself. I was operating only in my flesh, and had adopted this new age philosophy everyone was trying; women having sex without any expectations, emotions, or heart. The physical pleasure that I was seeking ultimately left me dead inside (you may as well call it necrophilia). 

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But God is good! His grace and mercy allowed me to have an experience that shook the world as I knew it, leaving me with two choices. 1: I could continue on this seemingly easy path (of destruction) like everyone else. Or 2: Give up sex and trust in this invisible God who loves and has plans for me. I remembered that part in the bible about sex being intended for marriage, but would skip over it. I knew in my heart of hearts that I had to make a change because my actions were leading to constant disappointments. With Gods help and Spirit, I was able to make a complete 180. I stopped going to clubs, smoking and doing anything that made my spirit weak and my flesh fervid. I became celibate, and with that everything changed. It was like I was given a new heart and set of senses. I suddenly understood things I once could not, and the things that haunted me were no longer there. I trusted God at His word.

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 There was no time at all from when I made my change to the time I met Stephon. He was smart, funny, sexy and (dun da da DAAH!!!) Celibate! May I add that being celibate in LA was unheard of?! We became friends right away, encouraging each other in our walks, and later on began courting. We had so much fun together and really got to know each other without any distractions. I got to know him deeply and saw him from a different perspective, not eclipsed by deceiving influences. Six months into our courtship, Stephon proposed epically and we immediately started planning. After all, we were celibate ;).  All in all, with one sacrifice comes many blessings. And a moment of pleasure is not worth a lifetime of pain. I pray this blessing for every woman! Let God be your matchmaker!

​-Christina Chaney

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Check out our proposal video below. I hope this inspires you!